The tiring pressure of workload, appointments, health issues, financial worries, and child’s future gets on the parents’ nerves at times, which makes them vent their frustration on the child himself. It is more than common to see parents get angry on their children. The reason behind can be valid, or contrastingly, totally irrational at other times.
At any cost, in any situation, letting out your anger on the child is not acceptable. Extreme wrath can in fact take a toll on your health, and hamper the bond between you and your child. Here comes the dire need of anger management techniques to keep you going in the race towards perfect parenting!
Anger management techniques for you as a parent to improve the emotional bond with your child
Identify the source of your irritation
Notice the early signs of anger; it can be anything that sets your teeth on edge. Once you notice you’re furious, take a deep breath to let up your anxiety and stress. However, it’s not easy as you’ll have only a second to identify it and keep yourself from losing your rag. So when you feel a streak of anxiety are about to engulf you any moment, take a deep breath to control your emotions and then calmly tell your child the right way to behave.
Accept the fact that your child will continue to push your buttons
You usually get offended because your children don’t do what you want them to do. The best solution is to be prepared that your children will leave no chance to push your buttons. But understand that they do not do it deliberately; they do it because they are children! Don't take their actions to heart. Instead, you should politely convey to them what is right and what is wrong. Further, if your children make irrational demands, try to divert their attention to other activities such as games.
Reflect on the situation to handle a similar event in future
Every day you find yourself stuck in a new situation and managing to control your indignation, but sometimes it goes beyond your patience and you vent your spleen. If you feel that your anger is assuaged, it’s a good idea to reflect on the situation and learn from the experience. Think about why you got upset, what made you edgy, and more importantly, what makes your baby happy and how could you tackle the situation better?
Show affection towards your child
Tackling a cranky child can be difficult, but sometimes a sudden hug and other affectionate gesture can immediately soothe your child. Try to treat your child’s ill behaviour with as much affection as you can to improve his psyche and your bond.
Fact of life:
Children are entirely dependent on their parents for food, shelter, protection, care and affection; therefore, it’s crucial that you understand their feelings and emotions to give them the most comfortable environment.
Also a universal fact:
You’re a human being and it’s natural that you get hacked off your children’s behaviour, but as a mature adult you must think that towering over your child and yelling at him mounts up great fear in them and impairs your bond. Find different and personalised ways to tackle situations when you get angry due to your children or other reasons to set an example of the best parenting.